The Rules of Fault, Responsibility, and Finishing What You Start

I am not an angel, while I may look angelic to some, I have made my mistakes in life and hopefully have learned from them, consequently I will not even attempt to understand the myriad reasons why people give up on things, run away from things, and/or fight for the wrong things. These "things" I am reflecting on span a wide variety of issues including: divorces, relationships, responsibilities, and finally goals.  Disclaimer : Since many people are prone to gossiping please note that none of these issues are currently affecting my life, and are just a reflection on thoughts I have been having on life in general.

On the topic of divorces and relationships my thoughts are pretty simple and can be very clearly outlined by a quote from one of my favourite movies "Laws of Attraction," yes it is a chick-flick. The line goes like this "Divorce is the post-mortum of a dead marriage, we (lawyers) represent people who discover a passion for a fight they never knew they had in them. Where was that passion and fight when it was time to SAVE the marriage?" I wont pretend to understand the complexities of marriage and the various relationships people have with loved ones, but I believe in one thing very strongly in life, and that is finishing what you start. That doesn't mean that you should stay in a relationship if you are unhappy, or are bored and see no real future in that relationship. However, I believe that you should at the very least sit down with your significant other and discuss the problems at hand, so that maybe you could give yourselves a fighting chance; otherwise, what was the point of getting together in the first place? In fact, it is your RESPONSIBILITY to discuss these things with the person whose life it may affect, because if you do not then you will not know how they feel, and you are simply stringing them along for your own selfish reasons and inability to FINISH WHAT YOU START. It takes balls/cajones/beytseem to speak frankly and own up to your faults, do it, you will be a better person for it, and maybe you will even find that you have spared yourself and others pain in the future. 

Continuing on with the taking responsibility and finishing what you start rules/theme, many people in my life have recently had exams, or are preparing for exams; in other words they are working to finish what they have started (i.e. their education/attaining their goals). My rule when it comes to responsibilities surrounding goals and work is the following : whatever you have to do, are doing at this moment, or have set out to accomplish, do it whole-heartedly and without sway. Do not ever compromise your goals, when studying be a student, do your work and reap the benefits. Don't do your work and be prepared to accept the results as  YOUR fault and no one else's, because at the end of the day you have failed yourself. Remember that distractions will always come your way, but these are hurdles to overcome on the road to success, break through them once, and every other time it will become easier. This rule becomes more important every day as computers, phones, and electronics in general bring these distractions to levels never before seen, its like christmukkah for kids with ADD. These are your goals, if you don't want to reach them then give in to the distractions, personally I couldn't careless. But, if you would like some advice, if you do feel as though you are losing concentration, the one thing that I find works is taking a nap. However, do not let things like studying take over your life, you need to enjoy yourself, see other people, in order do so you have to learn to manage your time well ..and now I can feel myself going on one of my infamous tangents, so I will stop here. 

At the end of the day, whether it comes to your goals or relationships in life, the Rules are the same: Take responsibility for your actions and OWN UP to your mistakes, and always FINISH WHAT YOU START (obviously, I mean that when it comes to finishing normal things not a bottle of whisky or a bag of crack, stay away from those things, unless you want to look like this guy-->)

And as usual, a side note. I am fed up with people littering. I would like to start a trend where if people see someone littering, may it be paper or plastic, that we ostracize and make examples of these people. This planet is our home, and the last thing I want is some insignificant oxygen wasting blob tossing their junk in my "backyard." So please, next time you see someone throwing something on the ground, especially when there is a garbage bin not far away, either ask them kindly to put their garbage in the bin, put their garbage (if it's safe of course) back in their hands and tell them to dispose of it properly, or if you feel up to it, SLAP THESE FOOLS. Have people learned bloody nothing? You are killing our planet with each bottle or bag of chips you leave laying around outside, please throw your trash out in bins and recycle. Otherwise, you might soon find yourself as a star on youtube being slapped across the face after being caught on camera dropping a chip bag. Consider yourself forewarned. 

Peace and Love.

IV